Stand and Deliver - 8 Easy Steps to Creating and Delivering a Great Wedding Toast

by Ann Keeler Evans

Being asked to give a toast at a wedding is an honor. You want to do a good job and you want to look good while doing it. Following these steps can make that happen. Only caveat: You have to follow the steps.

Do some research: Even if you think you know, ask the couple about their relationship history. They're going to tell you something important. (and they'll be thrilled you asked!) Even if you've known one or both of these friends forever, call the couple's friends and family and get a bigger view. Find out what they think is important about these people. No one ever has too much information about why your friends are great people!
Write an outline: You need to say thanks. You need to tell a sweet story. You need to reference their dreams. You need to raise your glass and wish them well.
Sort the information: Some of this information will be useful for your toast. Some will not. Writing a toast is not about listing every single wonderful characteristic, but something you know or someone told you will offer the metaphor you'll want to build the speech on. A good metaphor will carry you a long way!
Keep the focus. It's about them, not about you. You want to explain why you love this friend or why what you know about this friendship argues for your friend to become a great wedding partner, great. But wow them with your dedication to your friend.
Write the speech. Get it finished before you get to the wedding weekend. You don't just want to be clever, you want to say something meaningful about your hopes for this couple. You want them to realize their dreams. You want the community to celebrate and support them.
Edit: I can tell you right now, it's too long. If it's more than one page of large type, it's too long. You're looking for the essence. Cut back. Simplify sentences and meanings.
Practice: Don't memorize. Work from notes. Concentrate on what you mean and not just on what you want to say.
Review: Between the wedding ceremony and the reception, think about what you heard in the ceremony or the wedding vows that needs to be included. If so, write it down! An aside about how you were moved by a certain thing is always fun to hear. Just figure out how to keep it short! Don't let it overwhelm the very good speech you prepared!

Now, go give a great speech. You've prepared. You look great. And your friends are longing for your support. Give it to them and ask their world to raise their glasses as well as you wish your friends happiness in their marriage.

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