Engaged Couples Should Build a Solid Foundation Before the Wedding
by Sharen PittmanYou've been dating the same man for a long time. Now, he finally popped the question and you're getting married. It's an exciting time. You dream about a fantastic future together. You think about children and a nice house perhaps with that white picket fence. But have you really stopped and thought about what kind of future he wants?
Couples get into a lot of trouble when each one has an idea of the future but do not communicate it to their partner. For example, maybe you've talked about raising a family, but have you talked about some of the logistics of having kids such as when? How many children does each want? Is one sex an absolute must? Where the children would ideally be raised? Is a particular home location a family raising dream for one partner? What kind of school is preferred? Who would be the primary caregiver? Is someone expected to quit their job? You get the idea.
The objective is to go into your marriage with a solid foundation of goals that you can work toward together as a couple. It not only gets you on the same page but creating a vision can bring you closer. You can help give each other encouragement and determination when you are working toward the same goals not separate ones.
Take the time to discuss core beliefs and goals as well as fundamental ideals for each person. You may find that you don't see eye to eye on some things. It is better to work it out now than to wait and allow it throw your household into chaos later.
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